While living together 24/7 during the COVID-19 pandemic, couples are learning about each other’s quirks, and need to give each other space.
So where do you go when there’s no place to hide?
With rules and restrictions changing by the hour, it’s easy to fly off the handle, and take it out on your partner, but if we’re really all in this together, it’s time to set boundaries and create rituals so resentment isn’t top of mind.
Remember to Take Care of Yourself
If you think about self-isolation, the most important part of the term is “self.”
Whether it means putting on a facial mask, eating healthy meals, and binge watching TV shows instead of going to the refrigerator for comfort.
You can only be a good partner, if you’re taking care of yourself as well.
Create a Daily Ritual Alone
During the period of stay-at-home orders, I started meditating daily. I selected the Oprah Winfrey and Deepak Chopra 21-Day Guided meditation of Hope in Uncertain Times, and it’s been a lifesaver to help me sleep at night, and feel creative in the morning to start my day.
Taking some alone time creates a healthy work-balance in your life. While your work schedule might have changed, and you’re probably working from home in tight quarters, try to find time to write in a journal, write that juicy novel you’ve been dreaming about, and even take time to paint your toes.
Create a Daily Ritual Together
In Love During Quarantine, Tara and Paul relish in their ritual of sharing their rose and thorns from their day at while dining at night. They share responsibilities for deciding what recipes they’ll be cooking from, and can’t bring their mobile phones to the table.
The truth is, food is an aphrodisiac and it’s incredibly sexy to cook a romantic meal with your partner.
If you’re self-isolating in separate homes, if you order from the same menu, you can simply hop on a Zoom or FaceTime call and have in-room dining together, while apart.
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Make Sure to Apologize
Some people find it hard to say, “I’m sorry,” but coming from a place of forgiveness is better than letting resentment grow. Know that it’s OK to say, “I’m having a crappy day, but I appreciate all that you do for me, and for us.”
The best relationships are ones where we can agree to disagree, and kiss and make up. While you’re at it, don’t forget to have makeup sex.
Remember to Laugh
As cliche as it sounds, laughter is the best medicine. Let’s not forget we’re in a pandemic, and this is a serious time, but laugh at having a bad hair day, watch a funny sitcom to lighten the tone, and remember, we’re all in the same boat.
With the enormous amount of humorous memes, remember sharing is caring. Send a text and attach a meme that makes you smile every day, and you’ll be in a positive space to nurture and love your partner.
Once the Stay-at-Home orders are lifted, you’ll be able to cautiously and slowly be able to add more romantic dates to your routine, but for now, be happy you’re with someone who’s got your back.
I’m Julie Spira, an award-winning dating coach, and I created Love in the Age of COVID-19:How to Keep Love Alive During Quarantine to help you navigate love during this challenging time. Connect with me here.
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