Social distancing is the new normal during the novel coronavirus, and it will continue, even when the coast is clear to start going out again. Chances are your romantic life changed dramatically when the stay-at-home orders took effect, and now you’re trying to navigate your relationship without a rule book.
Regardless of your relationship status, just about everyone is in a long-distance relationship while self-isolating due to the pandemic.
Some couples who’ve been together for years are suddenly living apart in separate homes, without any physical contact.
Instead of pushing the pause button, it’s time to get creative to keep the spark alive, even when geography gets in the way.
Here are 5 Simple thing to do to Keep the Spark Alive in Your Relationship, When You Can’t Be Together
Make Communicating a Priority
Realize the flow to your relationship has been jolted. To keep continuity, communicating with each other needs to go beyond a nightly check-in phone call. The best way to achieve this is to mix it up by staying in touch.
I suggest sending a daily song in a text message to your partner. If playing DJ isn’t your thing, we’ve got you covered with our Love in the Age of COVID-19 Quarantine Playlist.
Keep the Conversations Positive
Rather than checking in to go over the details of your day, find something positive to share. Watching rinse-and-repeat news isn’t romantic, and you can always read about it in the morning.
Instead, start journaling and writing down the things you’re grateful for at this moment in time. We’re all looking for a joyful connection, so whether you post inspirational quotes on social media, or listen to an entertaining podcast, bring one happy thought to your partner every morning and every night.
Remember Your Relationship Milestones
I know I’ll be celebrating my birthday in quarantine, and remember how fun it was when we had a surprise virtual birthday party for my cousin in March.
Just because you can’t be together on your anniversary or birthday, and had to cancel your big plans, celebrating doesn’t have to be put on hold.
Perhaps this is the reason that virtual happy hours all so popular. At the end of your work from home day, it’s time to pour a glass of bubbly or sparkling water at the end of your busy digital day and hop on a Zoom call with your partner.
Go on a Daily Walk
Getting out of the house to breathe some fresh air every day will help you, both physically and emotionally. If you became a long-distance couple overnight, and are walking alone, know that your partner is doing the same. I suggest walking together and taking photos from your walk to text to each other. When you speak, share what you experienced during your walk.
Since the coronavirus pandemic has changed things on a daily, if not hourly basis, you’ll start to notice a shift in the number of people you’ll see out-and-about, the number of restaurants.
Bump up the Volume
I’m a big fan of sharing music, and I know many of you have had concerts canceled. From Coachella to the Jazz Festival in New Orleans, we’re consuming music now on social media with living room concerts and sharing quarantine playlists.
If you’re disappointed you can’t see the Rolling Stones Live in concert, check out their YouTube channel, where they just launched a 6-part series called Extra Licks.
Take a moment to listen to our Quarantine Playlist, filled with romantic songs to spice up your love life.
I’m Julie Spira, an award-winning dating coach, and I created Love in the Age of COVID-19:How to Keep Love Alive During Quarantine to help you navigate love during this challenging time. Connect with me here.
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